The Blog virgin's first post

Well, I did warn you! I have been meaning to subject you to this for a wee while.
I am a rather self-concious writer. I always felt before this momentous day(?) "Are my thoughts worth sharing?", "who on God's Earth will be in the least bit bothered by my inane utterings", etc.... and so on...... I will try!

My Twitter experience has led me thus far. I have had the pleasure of "tweeting" with so many talented, interesting souls since just before Christmas. I had, however, been on Twitter for a fair while before that, just tweeting away merrily to myself, until "Fry's" pulled me happily into it's virtual bosom.
Please stay with me, I am getting to some kind of point I assure you.

To the good people of Twitter: I am getting extreme pleasure from knowing you all better, I am cheeky, I banter, I like to deliver a one-liner here and there, and most probably, you may think that's about it from me. I hope that you all appreciate how valuable you have become to me, even though we are only known to eachother virtually.

I will go straight to the point now, I'm going for the Jugular vein, but please, no violins.
I can feel slightly isolated, with the job that I do (child minding) and being a single mother.
And, you, good citizens of the interweb, have at times, pulled me out of some pretty black "stuff". I am now thinking that it is the right time to introduce the subject matter that I would like to bring to your attention, and possibly have some feedback.

I will try to keep this post impersonal and in the "Third Person" in an attempt to keep matters confidential, but they are rather close to home.

When couples part, especially when children are involved, "control" is the last word that should be applied to this situation. Unfortunately, it is used quite often, and for what purpose? A child is perfectly happy, functioning well, being productive at school and in extra-curricular activities, and yet one parent demands their "rights" to this child, and to make their choices for them.

I remember hearing something when I was a young child myself that has shaped my opinion to this day. I cannot recall who said it, maybe I should have "Googled" it, but it was something along these lines: "Children are not our possessions, they are on loan to us until they are old enough to choose their own paths". And, of course, it goes beyond the realms of "coming of age", but that is the point I am making today.

Parents, in fact, have very little in the way of "rights", it is the children themselves who have them and, rightly so as long as it isn't abused. That "Third Person" has misinterpreted the meaning of "responsibility", that is, in essence, all a parent has.
So, my thoughts on this? That some use this as a stick to beat the other with, has nothing to do with parenting and is done for all the wrong reasons, (usually insecurity or hatred).

I'm sure you have realised by now, that the third person I refer to has dealings with me and, you would be right in your deducing. My summary? I have some brilliant friends, I have people in my life as close to family as you might get without sharing blood (eurgh!), But, Dear Twitterati,on some days had it not been for you, recent events may have been much much darker than they could so easily have been.

I dedicate this blog virgin's post to all of you. Me love you long time! (I promise that subsequent blogs SHOULD be more cheery!)

ARE YOU STILL AWAKE???
:-)